The bible is not a book on sex. However, it does contain
many specific ideas concerning sex and how sex fits into the total plan of creation and the progress of the Kingdom of God.
God looks at sex differently than our culture does. Our culture doesn’t consider people married until they go down to the courthouse and get the documents, then see a justice of the peace or a licensed minister and say “I do.” God sees it a little differently. God considers people married if they sleep together, even if they don’t have the papers. (Jesus,-John 4:16:18 – Samaritan woman. She ran around.)
If you or someone you know are sleeping together with only a verbal commitment, God’s word would tell you, “Follow that up immediately with the marriage covenant, or go and sin no more—get out of it right away.” Build your relationship on solid ground…not just shacking up for convenience sake.
It should be helpful to any couple planning marriage or any married person with wrong attitudes or faulty approaches to sex to study carefully some of the Bible passages related to sexuality in marriage.
God invented sex; he thought it up in the beginning. We have God’s permission to enjoy sex in marriage. He intended it for our pleasure! Sex in marriage (or the “act of marriage”) is not something unholy; it is not just a necessary activity altogether separate from our Christian lives; it is a God-ordained invention for husband and wife to experience and enjoy without any feelings of guilt.
In our society today, we are absolutely bombarded with sex. Far, far, far more than were our Mums and Dads when they were our age. We encounter sex, or implied sexual relationships in most movies today . TV shows are full of people hopping in and out of relationships and the beds. Advertising every where is full of sexually suggestive images. There are calendars out of sexy firemen. You don’t have to be looking very hard to find pornography in the newsagents, in the bookshops, in the video stores, on the internet, on the TV.
Why does nearly everything around us exploit our sexuality? Because Sex sells. Guys, why do you think that when they are showing a 30 second advert for a movie or TV show, they show girls with tight clothes and breasts hanging out and things like that? Why? Because they know that in 30 seconds if they can appeal to the male and show sexual images that a guy is going to say I’ve got to see that. What have they done? They don’t have your best interests in mind, they have your wallet in mind. They want you to go to the movie.
What we are constantly being bombarded with is the idea that sex is something that everyone is doing and that there are no limits on it. Negative attitudes about the act of marriage can destroy marriage relationships.
Okay. That’s enough for an introduction … For now,I want us to look at some common Myths about Sex then discover the truths they are hiding. Let us go explore God’s Word to find out what the Creator-God has to say on this subject :
Myth 1.) Turn in your bible to Gen 1:
1:26 Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.”
27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.
28 God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground.’’
It is God who made the first man and woman and notice his first command to them – Be Fruitful and increase in number. Not only did he create something that we are physically attracted to, his very FIRST COMMAND to us as a couple was this – go and have sex and have it often.
God is not down on sex – he created it, he commanded it and he DESIGNED IT TO BE ENJOYABLE for both men and women. He created men and women so that they would have orgasms – why? So they would enjoy sex. If you haven’t read song of Solomon, you should – it paints glorious pictures of a man and a woman enjoying a sexual relationship. God is not down on sex – he made it for our pleasure and to maximize its pleasure, but he set limits on it – not to spoil our fun, but to protect us from destroying ourselves. The limits God puts on sex is like a fence that is put at the top of a cliff to protect people. It is not there to spoil the view or to ruin your life. It is there to prevent you from slipping over the edge of the cliff and falling to your death. I think the first Myth about sex is busted – God is not down on Sex.
Myth 2) Sex is Purely PHYSICAL
God created sex to be meaningful. If you’ve still got your bibles open, flick over one page to Gen 2:19. There is the detailed account of the creation of Woman.
God designed men and women to come together to form one flesh. When you have sex, two people unite on an emotional and spiritual level – not just on a physical level
When you invest yourself in another person on a spiritual level through sex and then you leave them to go onto another partner, the effect is pain, hurt and loss. You need to understand that your sexual decisions will create LIFE-LONG MEMORIES. The most powerful sexual organ you have is not below the belt. It is in your mind. Sex is way too intimate to forget or shut out feelings, emotions, thoughts, situations. The things you do in bed will be there for life. But life is not like that!Sex is just physical.
Myth 3) Sex is NO BIG DEAL.
Society, the media your friends and sometimes even parents try to tell you that Sex is no big deal. But that is a lie.This is exactly like sex – we have been so inundated with sex and sexuality that we have begun to think it is no big deal. But it is. The sad thing is that most people are tricked into thinking that they know all there is to know about sex. They might have a lot of knowledge, but knowledge doesn’t bring wisdom. This is why so many people get into trouble. The truth of the matter is that Sex is a big deal because it has LIFE LONG CONSEQUENCES. I’ve already talked about the life long memories that people carry with them. But what about other consequences.
-Unwanted pregnancies – Oh that is not going to happen to me you say. Despite all the best intentions, when the crunch comes, people don’t practice safe sex and the result is often an unwanted pregnancy. Young people – don’t think it won’t happen to you – there are plenty of people who have said that in the past only to have to painfully eat their words
Girls are you ready to get pregnant and then either abort that baby or carry it through to term?
Guys are you ready to financially support a baby for the next 18 years or pay child support ?
I think it is interesting that God says people who have sex should leave and cleave.
That’s what Gen 2 … 24 says, For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
Those who want to have sex, should first of all be old enough to leave their parents and support themselves. If you can’t support yourself, your wife and a baby, don’t have sex. It is simple.
-Sexually Transmitted Diseases
You don’t hear about STDs or STI’s as they are now called, but HIV / AIDS, Gonorrhoea, Herpes (no cure) and Human Papilloma Virus (no cure) are still active. STD’s are diseases that propogate because people do not practice abstinence. If people stayed within God’s limits, there would not be any STDs to worry about, but because we’ve stepped outside the limits, thinking we know best, we have fallen and plenty of people are getting hurt.
So what about the myth that Sex is no big Deal – that myth is busted.
I want to encourage you to be checking this Internet- Site regurlarly. I will start to dig into the Bible to see what God’s attitude to Sex is and continue with the other Myths. I think you might be surprised to find out that God wants you to have great sex within the limits he provides. God Bless you!
